I recently received a comment on one of my posts referring to my self-love. When I read it I thought to myself, “What self-love? I obviously don’t have self-love since I am trying to change myself through this weight-loss journey I have decided to embark on.” However, I just couldn’t get this idea of self-love out of my head, so I took the time to look up the definition for self-love. According to “The Free Dictionary,” self-love is the “instinct or desire to promote one’s own well-being; regard for or love of one’s self.”
The part of that definition that really got me thinking was “instinct or desire to promote one’s own well-being.” Being over-weight, especially in the obese category, is not healthy, and by taking steps to change my physical condition, I am promoting my own well-being. In addition, I am only trying to make a change that affects my health and appearance, it does not affect who I am at my core. Then does that mean I have self-love?
Well, I know there are things about myself that I love, such as my cooking skills or the fact that I will stop and buy the homeless man who is standing in the cold a warm meal because I hate the idea of anyone suffering. There are also ways I demonstrate love for myself that are not related to losing weight, such as taking care of my personal needs. I have three kids five and under and being a stay at home mom means I am with them 24/7, so if I need a couple hours or even a day to myself to reconnect with myself or my husband then I will send them to their grandma’s house and not feel guilty about it. She loves them, they love her, and I get some time alone or time with the husband.
I am not saying there are not things I do not like about myself. I have those things too, such as my quick temper, my disorganization, and my weight, but these things do not out-weigh the good things I feel and do for myself. Knowing what I do not like about myself is a good thing as it gives me an area of myself that I can work on and make better. I am not ashamed to have things about myself that I do not like because that makes me human and I accept that nobody is perfect so I won’t ever be either.
All in all, I now know that I do have self-love and so does anyone who is doing something to take care of or better themselves. I will continue along my new journey knowing that I am making these changes not because I do not like myself, but because I do love myself.